290: Don’t Lose the Quality of Your Love Life Just Because of a Worldwide Pandemic, with Diana Wiley

Diana Wiley, author of Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine

Diana Wiley and Bill Ringle discuss examples of ways that even in a quarantine, we can deepen our affection, love, and closeness, even for small business leaders.

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Top 3 Take-Aways from this Interview

  • The enforced closeness that comes with quarantining together has often increased the friction between couples.
  • Participating in the sex-menu exercise, couples will get more comfortable with sexual terminology, an essential element for good communication.
  • Dopamine begets the desire for more dopamine, and just might lead to new adventures in the bedroom.

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Interview Insights

Read the Show Notes from this Episode

  • Diana’s father created a warm loving family environment. [1:17]
  • Diana states reaching out for professional support is very beneficial; couples wait 7 years on average to do so. [4:49]
  • You should say 4-5 things that are positive about your employees’ work after giving critical or corrective feedback. [6:58]
  • Praise first and criticize later. [7:33]
  • How to communicate with your employees when giving feedback on their work. [7:40]
  • Diana describes how she listens deeply, which means not focusing on what you will say back, and allowing time to  acknowledge the other person’s feelings. [12:48]
  • Here is an example of a couple’s therapy issue. [14:18]
  • Details of physical and emotional foreplay in this case. [16:01]
  • Sweet nothings are an important ingredient to a healthy marital relationship. [19:46]
  • Break the habit of saving up resentment about your partner. [22:10] 
  • Diana describes the sex menu. [26:01]
  • Diana reveals the best sex tip, one that is applicable even to business: active listening. [28:27]
  • My Quest for the Best lightning round begins [29:48]

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Expert Bio

Dr. Diana Wiley, PhD, has practiced for more than thirty years as a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. Since 2010 she has hosted the online radio show “Love, Lust, and Laughter” on Progressive Radio Network. Dr. Diana has published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging, where she was the only delegate to speak about love and sexuality. 

Dr. Diana has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, and India at the World Congress(es) of Sexology, and at many US conferences, mainly at meetings of The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. Before going to graduate school in 1979, Dr. Diana worked as an English teacher in Hawaii, Italy, and Mexico City. She also worked as a fashion model and performed on stage and in film productions in New York, Los Angeles, Miami Beach, and Honolulu.


Contact Info for Diana Wiley

Web address: https://www.deardrdiana.com/

Travels from: Seattle, WA

Social Media Links

Books Authored by Diana Wiley



Resources Mentioned During the Interview

Diana’s homepage

Diana’s Youtube channel

Diana’s sex menu exercise

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