269: Wayne Baker, explains the art of asking to advance your business and personal goals

Wayne Baker and Bill Ringle discuss the art of asking and overcoming the most common obstacles for small business leaders.

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Key Takeaways from this Episode

  • If you lead people through this process of asking step-by-step, people find it a lot easier no matter how they might struggle with asking for help or what are there, their mindset might be, everyone can be better at it.
  • Sometimes we don’t ask because we think no one is willing or able to help reach a show is just the opposite that people are willing and able to help if you ask them.
  • Getting the support we need to achieve our goals, at work, and in all the rest of life, is too often inhibited by difficulties we face in asking for it.
  • The first step is figuring out what you’re trying to accomplish, what’s the destination that you’re trying to get to.
  • Research shows that when we can ask for help, we are less frustrated at work (or home).

Tweet-Ready Insights from this Episode

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Read the Show Notes from this Episode

  • Wayne describes how his father inspired him. [1:35]
  • Do you remember an example when you applied the lesson your father gave you? [2:10]
  • How do you become the Director of the Center for Positive Organizations? [4:06]
  • To what degree those positive psychology publications influenced your work? [6:22]
  • Wayne talks about positive deviance and reflective best self [7:10]
  • Wayne attests that most people will help you when you ask [12:50]
  • Wayne talks about his theory when making request [15:13]
  • Wayne shared an example of a person who applied this practice [16:46]
  • Wayne talks about the reciprocity ring [24:50]
  • Wayne shares about “rapid-fire session” [29:50]
  • Wayne talks about the glow of giving [32:30]
  • My Quest for the Best Lightning Round begins [33:17]

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Expert Bio

Dr. Wayne Baker is the Robert P. Thome (“toe-may”) Professor of Business Administration at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business and Faculty Director of the Center for Positive Organizations. His teaching and research focus on positive organizational scholarship, values, and social networks. Dr. Baker is author of All You Have to Do Is Ask (published January 2020) as well as five other books and many scholarly articles. His other books include Achieving Success Through Social Capital, United America, America’s Crisis of Values, and Networking Smart.

Focused on social capital, social networks, generosity, and positive organizations, he has contributed to Harvard Business Review, Chief Executive Magazine, and Sloan Management Review. A frequent guest speaker and management consultant, Baker is a co-founder and board member of Give and Take Inc., developers of the collaboration technologies based on principles in All You Have to Do Is Ask.

Prior to joining the Michigan faculty, he was on the faculty at the University of Chicago business school. He earned his Ph.D. in sociology from Northwestern University and was a post-doctoral research fellow at Harvard University.


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Web address: www.waynebaker.org

Travels from: Ann Arbor, MI

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